I don’t see any reason to put off announcing it any longer, so without further ado, this is the “secret” project I was working on. Check out some of the articles:
What is Demisexuality?
Could I Be Demisexual?
Am I Demisexual If…
Coming Out As Demisexual
And more! 
Share it, link to it, use it! Consider this a soft launch, and please provide feedback if you have it.* I want to do a bigger launch for Asexual Awareness Week. 
* Seriously, I would really appreciate ideas for articles, links and other ways to improve the site. 

Oh wow!!


I don’t see any reason to put off announcing it any longer, so without further ado, this is the “secret” project I was working on. Check out some of the articles:

Share it, link to it, use it! Consider this a soft launch, and please provide feedback if you have it.* I want to do a bigger launch for Asexual Awareness Week. 

* Seriously, I would really appreciate ideas for articles, links and other ways to improve the site. 

Oh wow!!



I hear people say “oh my god I hate people” all the time without backlash. everyone knows they don’t hate every single individual in humanity. they have friends and family they love and hang out with. they simply hate the greedy, corrupted, oppressive nature of some human beings.
but the minute we say something about white people or men, no one seems to understand that it’s the same concept.



Can’t Stop, Won’t Stop (9.29.14): At around 1:30AM CST, the police have released the unjustly arrested protesters. This is still some of the most ridiculous shit I’ve ever seen, but at least folks are back out and headed home to their families. The struggle continues. No justice, no peace! #staywoke #farfromover (PT I) (PT II) (PT III)

Follow the developments live @ Argus LIVESTREAM.










This is a (loose) transcript of my youtube video

Hey Guys, it’s Kat and I’m here to talk to you about BLACK FACE.

In light of recent controversies, the YouTube community has taken to calling out problematic youtubers. I’m a huge fan of…

I am not, in any way, trying to make this about me (as the “not all men/white people” types do). I am not trying to make a strawman, or in anyway derail, disregard, or mock the very fine, very educational essay I am reblogging. I am asking the following question because I am genuinely curious as to what the proper course of action would be, what would be respectful and acceptable. And I’m asking on a reblog, because I think the people who’ve reblogged this would have valuable insight and opinions on this.

I am white. My exact ethnicity may be debatable, but my skin is white. There are a number of black characters that would be fun to cosplay. Hell, lets say I want to show how much I like Falcon from The Winter Soldier, because he’s awesome.

What is the appropriate way to cosplay someone from another race, especially when you are a white cosplayer wanting to cosplay a black character? Would an accurate, not-characaturized makeup job be acceptable?

You wear the costume and not the ethnicity/culture/race. 

the last comment ..Thank you! I try to explain this to other cosplayers all the time

I’ll be doing a video about this soon. I’ve had people portray me in the past and do SPOT ON jobs.  To the point where facebook automatically tagged me in it and they were as pale as snow.

To add a very important note: it will NEVER be acceptable to use makeup to change your skin color or features to that of another race or ethnic group. Caricature or no. It may be that some viewers can’t guess your costume without it but I’m certain you can handle the harrowing task of telling them what it is.

The sooner certain people stop jumping through hoops and bending over backward to try and sneak past the rules of anti-racism, the sooner people stop reaching and stretching to question and subvert the guidelines on how to be decent in the most basic way, the sooner we stop entertaining folks determined to pick apart every tiny hypothetical scenario to see what they can get away with the sooner we’ll have some real damn progress.


In various schools in Uganda, and some other parts of Africa, children as young as five are punished for speaking African languages, indigenous languages and mother tongues at school. The modes of punishment differ. The most common one in Uganda is wearing a dirty sack until you meet someone else speaking their mother tongue and then you pass the sack on to them. In some schools, there are specific pupils and students tasked with compiling lists of fellow pupils and students speaking mother tongues. This list is then handed over to a teacher responsible for punishing these language rule-breakers. According to Gilbert Kaburu, some schools have aprons that read: “Shame on me, I was speaking vernacular” handed over to an offender of the No Vernacular rule, who then is tasked with finding the next culprit to give the apron. Most of the punishments, in their symbolism emphasise the uselessness of the African languages.

Commenting on a photo of two children in Uganda wearing dirty sacks as punishment for speaking their mother tongues, Zimbabwean writer, Tendai Huchu says:

“That sums up our self loathing and inferiority complex. Junot Diaz once said we do a better job of enforcing white supremacy ourselves than white supremacists ever could. I should add, notice how the punishment consists of wearing sack-cloth. The image is telling. You are rags if you speak your own language.”

Halima Hosh, agreeing with Tendai Huchu opines:

“It’s outrageous. What a slave mentality that a colonial language is considered higher or better/more worth than their own local language. Unbelievable. Do the Europeans learn any African language in school? No. Why not? Because we are not proud of our heritage, not proud of our languages, not proud of Black African history. These teachers need to be fired.

This is a serious problem. Read the entire article here: (via linglife)

Languages don’t generally become endangered because people just don’t really feel like speaking them anymore: it’s often much more brutal. And similar methods for repressing indigenous languages happen all over the world: this reminded me of a memorable quote from a man in Alaska “Whenever I speak Tlingit, I can still taste the soap.” 

(via allthingslinguistic)




You can find a transcript of this video here

In this video, I talk about the definition of racism I was raised with vs the actual definition of racism. I also discuss the subject of “reverse racism”.

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Hey Kat…

First, thank you for your courageous work, for being out there and making the world smarter. I as a white cis straight male am always grateful for voices who are not arguing from my perspective on issues of gender and race and sexuality and I’m learning a lot.

I would like to say something to my fellow white folks about defining racism and how the first definition – the one you were raised with – is itself an act of racist oppression that white folks like me need to stop defending asap.

This applies to men defining sexism or feminism, cis people defining transphobia or straight people defining homophobia as well. Just generally what happens when the people in power set the terms of what can be labelled oppressive or not.

The first definition you talk about allows white people to slip out of productive conversations about race:
- you say something about white people, they hear reverse racism, conversation over.
- you call a white person out on their racist behavior, they say they “like” colored folks, unfair attack or misreading me, conversation over.
- you point to a racist law or policy, nobody meant for colored people to be hit hardest, it’s just how it turned out, the colored people must have done something wrong, conversation over.
- I’m not racist, but…
…and so on.

As long as “racism” means “disliking people from different race” everybody gets a free pass. I don’t mean it that way, so it was not racist. And if you criticise you are unfairly attacking me, blabla, I’m a nice guy blabla, you are just playing the race card, whawha.

The colloquial use of the term “racism” is like an impenetrable shield against criticism and change because it protects the oppressive systems and behaviors we have by not letting us talk about it.

So, dear white people, definitions are man-made devices to serve a specific purpose in conversations, in education, in politics, in culture, in science… People found something, recognized something as a thing/concept and gave it a name so we can work with that thing together.

And if there are multiple definitions of racism out there, we have to choose the one that let’s us talk about racism in a productive way, not the one that let’s us white people of the hook and shuts people of color up.

Silencing people of color is racist.
Not taking responsibility as a white person for fighting the racial injustices caused and maintained by the white people we pay for, we vote for, we work for and by ourselves – just reaping the benefits of it – is racist.

White people don’t get to define what racism is. The oppressors don’t get to define what oppression is. No matter how educated a white person is, how many books on our shelfs confirm our view, how big we made it professionally, how old and wise we are, we white people SUCK at defining racism, because – as humans do – nobody wants to be evil, so we cover our ass.

Stop covering your ass. If you use a definition of racism – or sexism or homophobia or transphobia – that is not forcing your conscience to change yourself a little everyday, you are doing it wrong. No matter what the elders told you.

^^^This is really good and I always 100% support white allies collecting their own but please do not use the phrase “colored people” . It has a meaning and history completely different from “people of color”.

"Colored people " carries the fully intentional implication that whiteness is the default by placing the color of our skin as an asterisk in front of the label "people ". It has been used as a casual (and aggressive) way to discount our humanity and justify any number of societal injustices.

"People of color" is a phrase coined as an intentional reversal of the above slur that asserts unequivocally that we are people first and foremost and that our color is a hypervisible but not shameful qualifier that determines a lot about how the world reacts to us. Please exclusively use this unless taking about the struggles of a specific group (in which case you should use that group’s preferred terminology.)